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Thanks again for your wonderfully articulate and well-written comments on my Body Image in Women post.
Your comments have me thinking more and more about what we can all do to decrease “fat talk” and negative self-talk and increase positive self-talk, especially among women.
Recently, on this running website, I came across an interesting quote, “It’s not what you think you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you are not.”
I think, too often, we spend time and energy focusing on what we think we are not. What we have done wrong. What we have done that’s not good enough.
We need to bring the focus back to what we think we are and what we know we can be.
When I was younger, I was never satisfied with my body. I hated wearing swimsuits – I loved swimming, but I was not happy with how I looked. As I’ve grown older and perhaps a bit wiser, I’ve come to appreciate my body for the strength, muscles, and yes, even the curves. I love feeling healthy and strong and I choose to focus on the good rather than the bad.
If I eat a little too much, or something a little less healthy, I’ve learned to enjoy every bite and not spend precious hours stressing and beating myself up. Instead of saying to myself, “You are so stupid, I can’t believe you ate a whole serving of french fries”, I choose to say, “I savored the french fries slowly and enjoyed them so much, and I know I’ll be back to my normal healthy eating at my next meal.” Words can be powerful.
What thoughts and ideas about yourself and your behaviors do you need to give up? What positive thoughts about yourself can you replace them with?